8/26/99
You're one of a kind!
As a small child I knew I was not special as I felt that I was the least
loved in my family of 6 children. I was not smart, bad at sports and
anything but handsome. As I grew older and understood that God had
made me to be one of a kind. I was sad because more than anything in life
I wanted to be loved and fit in with others. I didn't want to be one
of a kind, I wanted to be one in a million! I wanted to know that
God had made others like me and some place in this huge world was a place
for me.
The more I discovered about myself, the more alone I
felt. I went from being one of six children in my family to being
one of 7.5 billion in the world. Every time I try to fit in I find
the many things about myself that makes me one of a kind once more.
I hold on to the things in life that I have in common with others and do
fit in for the most part. Yet in the back of my mind I know that I'm
one of a kind.
By understanding our differences from others, we can
shape our lives to be the person we want to be. When we are
happy with who we are, we start to fit in with others! Then we can
see how much we truly are loved. Do you feel alone in your [company]
business? Are you part of the team? Do you feel the love?
It's not about others in the business, it's about YOU!
Take the time to look at you and see what you can become. You can be
happy that your one of a kind only when your the person you want to be!
We have 3 very different ways that we are not like
others as well as 3 ways we are alike. The 3 ways are the good, bad and
indifferent. First, let's look at the bad. It is the bad things
about us that we must work on. By changing these things we can
become better people.
Look at yourself honestly as a [company] consultant. Off
the top of your head you can list 5 or more things you are honestly bad
at. Is it 2+2 calls? Do you make them? Follow up calls
to hostesses? Do you make them? Do you close out your parties
right away or put it off for a day or week or even longer? Do you
call your leader on time each week? Do you go to meetings? Do
you fill out the ROF right away? Do you mail out invitations?
Are you giving enough help to your new consultants?
The list can go on for weeks, as we all have things
about us we know we need to change. It's not that we as people are bad, we
all just have things were bad about. When you take an honest look at
yourself and make a list, you have started on a never ending journey to
better yourself and become a better person as well as consultant. By
placing these things in writing you are forcing yourself to take a look at
what is holding you back. You are then
left with only two choices. You can choose to make the changes
needed to move them over to your " GOOD" list or ignore them and
pray that they don't cause you sleepless nights! The choice is yours
as no one can do it for you, it is part of who you chose to be in life.
Next is the indifferent. The Indifferent things in
our life are the things that don't really matter to us and most of our
friends. This is a great place for us to hide the things we don't
want to work on. We tell ourselves that " it makes no
difference" to us or our friends. Once more, think about you
and your [company] business. Make a list of 5 or 10 things you do or
don't do in the business that you think are indifferent. Ordering
one piece of a set as a replacement to save you money and still be able to
show it? Combine orders to save on shipping charge? Telling a
friend you are sending a gift or giving a free sample you never get around
to doing? Trying to book a hostess that has a party booked with
someone else? Not spending your money on raffle tickets to
help pay for a meeting room as you already have all the prizes anyway?
Not giving to the ACS as cancer does not run in your family and the others
will raise the money anyway? Forgetting to return a phone call?
After you have listed a few of them, sit down and look
at the list. Are they really indifferent to you and your friends or
are they things you just haven't thought about? Often I place the
item on an SRVP or my best friend and look at what I would think if they
did these things. "What would I think if my SRVP told people
she would give them a gift or free sample and never got around to doing
it? What if my best friend never bought a raffle ticket as she
already has all the prizes? " This often places it in the good
or bad list and helps me to look at my life a little closer and make
changes. Sometimes changing the way we look at things alone can help
make us better people.
Last, let's look at the good list and end on a happy
note! Make a list of the best of the best you do in the
business. List no less than 10 things you are the best at! If
you can't think of 10 right away, you need to get to work on your bad list
right away and make major changes in your business!!! What are your
top 10? I hold a fun and exciting party? I am great at hostess
coaching? I always close out parties the same night? I always
get 2
or more bookings? I am great at helping out others? I'm never
late to meetings or parties? I always read my consultant manual to
learn something new? I always have a hostess pack with me at all
times? I send out Thank You cards to my leaders and hostesses to
remind them that I am thankful for them? I'm well organized? I
know my product well?
Then think back to your other list. What can you
change that will most complement the items on your "good" list?
Do you have it all but your goals? Work on goal setting! Need
to give the 2+2 a try? Make up a huge contact list! Do you
feel a need to help out others? Call your leader and offer to share
your strong points and helpful hints at a meeting! One by one you
can make changes that will add to your business and help you feel good
about yourself! As you work on " A Better You", people
will enjoy having a business experience with you more and more and your
business WILL grow.
A better you will make more friends!
Your friends will become hostesses!
Your hostesses will become consultants!
Your consultants will become a part of the team!
The support of the team will help make a better you!
A better you will make more friends!
Your friends will become hostesses!
Your hostesses will become consultants!
Your consultants will become a part of the team!
The support of the team will help make a better you!
This never ending circle is held together by the love
and kindness we develop as we work on becoming a better person. Each
of us have a mix of good and bad that is like no other. We are drawn
in to this circle by what we have in common. At the same time, It is
what we don't have in common that causes us to stay as we need the help of
others to better ourselves.
What would happen to [company] if we all were Dianne
Baldridge? It is her being one of a kind that causes us to love her.
I will never become Dianne Baldridge, Beth Vesco-Smith or any other leader
we all look up to! However, I'm a better consultant today than I was
a year ago and I'll be even better next year. It is only because I
want to and take the time to look at ME and make changes! We all
can! Your always going to be one of a kind!
Why not work on being the best ONE you can be?
When we no longer grow, we have died! Hank |